The Truth About BPD and Cheating

    Plenty of mentally-healthy people cheat — an estimated 40%, in fact — but the general consensus around BPD and cheating is that it is us, the unstable, toxic borderlines, who are the persistent offenders. After all, we are the ones who blow hot and cold, idealising you one minute and hating you the next. We are the ones who push you away at the slightest inconvenience, renowned for being impulsive, flighty and — let’s face it — promiscuous. Just do a quick Google search and you will see ‘engaging in risky sex or promiscuity’ on every list of symptoms. If that isn’t damming enough, you can stray onto sites like Reddit and read first-hand accounts of people who’ve…

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    BPD and Long-Distance Relationships – Can They Work?

    BPD and long-distance relationships are not the most, erm, compatible combination. I happened to find this out the hard way, when a relatively stable, years-long relationship of mine went down in flames after merely ONE month of long-distance. “But, all of your old relationships went down in flames,” I hear you accuse. Touché. But this LDR actually became the catalyst for my BPD diagnosis. Across blogs and forums, people with BPD communicate their struggle with long-distance relationships. Stina Marie describes it as ‘agony’. Laura Snelling says it is “extremely difficult and exhausting” – not only for herself, but for the person she’s with. Why is BPD so destructive to long-distance…

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    Going Through A Break-Up When You Have Borderline Personality Disorder

    Breakups suck. Going through a breakup when you have borderline personality disorder doubly sucks. And don’t even get me started on what it feels like to get dumped. Oh, sorry, did I say dumped? I meant “abandoned forever because I’m a worthless piece of shit and nobody will ever love me, etc, etc, etc….” One of the most self-destructive symptoms of BPD is an intense and overwhelming fear of abandonment. This fear often triggers the display of other symptoms – erratic moods, paranoia, splitting and impulsive behaviour, all of which are great at creating unstable, toxic relationships and making our fear of abandonment a self-fulfilling prophecy. Read: Everything You Need…

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