• Anxiety

    10 Self-Soothing Activities For Anxiety

    I am always on the lookout for the best self-soothing activities for anxiety. I’ve suffered from anxiety (as well as depression and BPD) for over a decade, so I know just how difficult intense emotions can be to handle. In my turbulent teens and early twenties, I tried everything I could to calm my out-of-control anxiety, from substance abuse to total isolation. Of course, my anxiety only got 10x worse. I would suffer from debilitating panic attacks that would leave me mentally-exhausted and completely vulnerable to the vicious anxiety cycle. Read: Social Anxiety and Alcohol – A Dangerous Cocktail I thought it would take some divine, complex concoction to manage…

  • BPD

    Healing From Childhood Trauma

    Healing from childhood trauma is a complex, personal process that often requires professional therapy. Please always seek professional advice. For my full disclaimer and some awesome mental health resources, click here. When you’ve experienced trauma as a child, it often feels like a wound that won’t heal despite how many times it scabs over. It is vulnerable to the slightest touch – a face, a smell, a song on the radio. All it takes is a nick for the wound to burst open, as fresh as it was all those years ago. Our natural instincts tell us that if we leave it alone it will heal autonomously. Life dictates that…

  • Self-Care

    40 Things To Do When You’re Bored At Night

    If you are a chronic insomniac like me, finding new things to do when you’re bored at night becomes an almighty chore. There’s only so much Friends you can binge before Ross’s voice becomes intolerable. You’re all out of midnight snacks and scrolling through social media is so mind-numbingly boring that even your best friend’s posts start to irritate you eventually (seriously, another picture of your dinner?) Maybe you’re stressed about a job interview or exam. Maybe you suffer from depression and your brain is convinced that replaying all of your past mistakes is far more productive than a good night’s sleep. Maybe anxiety has you worrying inconsequentially about all…

  • Depression

    Things I Learnt From My First Mental Breakdown

    It probably doesn’t surprise you to know that I, the Queen of Self-Destructive Behaviours and Bad Decisions, have had my fair share of mental breakdowns. My first mental breakdown happened when I was 14 years old. It wasn’t the worst breakdown I’ve had by far, but it’s the one that pains me the most when I think about it. My Story I remember it as clear as day: me and my best friend walking through our high school gates, laughing and bitching about some trivial teenage drama. My depression was forcibly hidden underneath my over-enthusiastic engagement in the conversation, as was my budding codependency issues, intensely fluctuating mood swings and…

  • BPD

    BPD and Long-Distance Relationships – Can They Work?

    BPD and long-distance relationships can be a very damaging mix. Why do I say this? Well, before my diagnosis, circumstances found me and my boyfriend of 2 years in a long-distance relationship (we’re talking opposite sides of the world long distance). I’d be lying if I said the relationship wasn’t already on the rocks, but it lasted less than two months before ending in disaster. “But all of your relationships have ended in disaster,” I hear you accuse. Touché. And yet, those two months of being in a long-distance relationship exasperated my BPD to the point where I was very, very ill. The breakdown of this relationship was actually the…

  • Self-Care

    How To Become More Emotionally Self-Aware

    I used to have the emotional self-awareness of a faulty kettle. In my late teens and early twenties, I was a slave to BPD’s unstable, impulsive emotions. I succumbed to the anxiety and believed every word it said, my panic attacks capable of overwhelming me in an instant. I would also ruminate for hours on end, thinking myself into deep depressive episodes with zero restraint. Because I wasn’t emotionally self-aware, my emotions kind of just happened to me and I would react to them with intensity. When you lack self-awareness, you lack the ability to identify things like triggers and bad habits. You struggle with emotional control and find yourself…

  • Self-Care

    Beautiful Mental Health Quotes From Literature

    If you’re a bookworm like me or love a meaningful mental health quote, you’ll love this list of my favourite mental health quotes from literature. I used to be your stereotypical Tumblr-obsessed 16-year-old. I treasured a huge collection of angsty, depression-inducing picture quotes, most of them about giving up on happiness or being unable to drown my demons. Yep, I was your stereotypical emo kid, right down to the floppy side-fringe. I liked those quotes because I could relate to them and in a way they made me feel less alone. However, I was also an impressionable, volatile teenager who would think herself into depression on a daily basis –…

  • Self-Care

    Things To Remember If You’re Feeling Ugly

    There are a million reasons why you might be feeling ugly today. Maybe you recently got cheated on. Maybe you’re scrolling through Instagram and can’t help comparing yourself to that airbrushed model or friend who always looks good. Maybe a new spot on your chin is giving you a low self-esteem day. Or, maybe, you just feel ugly and always have. Girl, I know exactly how you feel. I was a teenage girl with albinism, nystagmus and a severe case of acne. Not to mention the Harry Potter glasses! Yeah, I got bullied mercilessly throughout high-school to the point where I couldn’t look in the mirror without wanting to scrape…

  • Anxiety

    Overcome Social Anxiety With This Social Anxiety Challenge

    So, the whole quarantine thing really came at a pivotal time for me in terms of my social anxiety. Four months before it happened, I made the totally rushed and nonsensical decision to go to Australia and do the whole backpacking-hostel-party-life thing. Yes, me. In a hostel. With people. Constantly. I’m not going to lie, I kind of hated every dread-filled, anxiety-inducing second. At the same time, it also taught me a bunch of important life-lessons and did absolute wonders for my social anxiety. I still didn’t particularly enjoy being around a bunch of people day-in-day-out with no room to breathe – but I was definitely getting used to it.…

  • Depression

    8 Life-Changing Hobbies For Depression

    We often don’t fully understand just how important hobbies are for our mental health until we have depression. I suffered from depression for over ten years, so I am well-acquainted with the ‘what’s the point’ mindset. I have endured long periods of hopelessness where I lacked the motivation to do anything other than sleep. I’ve also indulged in my fair share of unhealthy, self-destructive coping mechanisms, which completely destroyed my ability to find pleasure in life’s little things. These hobbies for depression are low-effort and cost-effective, with most of them being scientifically proven to reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress and insomnia. This is because participating in healthy hobbies fights…

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