• BPD

    Everything You Need To Know About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder

    Living with borderline personality disorder can be incredibly distressing and the suicide rates are dangerously high. Here is everything you need to know about BPD. What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition that is characterised by instability. Our relationships are turbulent, our emotions are volatile and intense, and our self-identity is constantly wavering. It is a condition that causes intense inner turmoil, often resulting in self-destructive behaviours, self-harm and suicide attempts. Read: The Worst Things About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder BPD Statistics Around 1 in 100 people have BPD, making it the most common personality disorder Up to 76% of people with BPD report…

  • Self-Care

    10 Signs That You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Happiness

    This post contains affiliate links. You can read my affiliate disclaimer here. The idea that we’re self-sabotaging our happiness is kind of soul-crushing, isn’t it? I mean, I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety and BPD for over a decade so I know just how hard it is to be happy. I know what it’s like to feel as though your brain chemicals are conspiring against you, intent on poisoning every thought and memory you have. I know what it’s like to have no control over your emotions, to slip into suicidal despair just because your mind says so. To say that I am ‘self-sabotaging’ is depression-inducing enough. Truthfully though, everyone is…

  • BPD

    20 Positive Affirmations for BPD

    We don’t often think of using positive affirmations for BPD. I actually started using them solely to manage my anxiety. However, since I’ve been incorporating positive affirmations into my self-care routine, I’ve seen a lot of improvement in how I manage some of my BPD symptoms. Positive affirmations are simple, positive statements that you repeat daily to yourself. They encourage positive thinking patterns and healthy coping mechanisms by subconsciously adjusting and realigning your negative mindset. In fact, positive affirmations work in the same way as negative affirmations: the more you consciously repeat them, the easier it will be for your subconscious brain to start believing them. Positive affirmations for BPD…

  • Self-Care

    20 Things To Do Instead Of Drinking Alcohol

    I know the feeling. It’s 6pm, the time you would normally crack open a bottle of wine after a long day. It’s the thing you’ve been waiting for ever since you got up, the only thing that’s made the last 8 hours of work/life bearable. Finding things to do instead of drinking has always been difficult for me. For a good few years I was completely alcohol dependent, to the point where ‘going to the pub’ was my only real hobby. Any other activity I did – watching a film, going out for dinner, reading a book – was completed with a glass in my hand. I found it difficult…

  • Anxiety

    11 Practical Conversation Tips for Social Anxiety

    There really aren’t words powerful enough to describe how much I hate small-talk. Even though my social anxiety doesn’t leave me in a state of pure panic whenever the door knocks anymore, I sometimes still get a feeling of dread every time I bump into an acquaintance or have to meet new people. As someone whose social anxiety is intrinsically related to BPD, my conversation anxiety stems from severe self-identity issues. BPD gives me feelings of intense emptiness and there are days where I truly feel as though I don’t exist. Having to talk to people when I feel like ‘nobody’ is extremely anxiety-inducing because I feel as though I…

  • BPD

    The Truth About BPD and Cheating

    Plenty of mentally-healthy people cheat — an estimated 40%, in fact — but the general consensus around BPD and cheating is that it is us, the unstable, toxic borderlines, who are the persistent offenders. After all, we are the ones who blow hot and cold, idealising you one minute and hating you the next. We are the ones who push you away at the slightest inconvenience, renowned for being impulsive, flighty and — let’s face it — promiscuous. Just do a quick Google search and you will see ‘engaging in risky sex or promiscuity’ on every list of symptoms. If that isn’t damming enough, you can stray onto sites like Reddit and read first-hand accounts of people who’ve…

  • Depression

    10 Reasons Why You Should Stay Alive Tonight

    I don’t know your life story, nor do I know your pain. What I do know though, is that your life is worth saving. There are so many reasons why you should stay alive even if you feel as though suicide is the only option. I was five years old when I lost one of my parents to suicide. Growing up I struggled with guilt, rejection, anger and heartbreak, driving myself mad with unanswered questions. Why did they do it? No, how could they do it, when I needed them most? Was I not enough? My parent’s suicide caused me a great deal of inner turmoil and spiralled me into…

  • Depression

    What To Do If You Feel Like You’re Slipping Back Into Depression

    So, after yet another string of unfortunate life events, I’ve found myself slipping back into depression for the first time in months. Not my usual I’m-sad-but-I-can-deal-with-it depression, but the kind of persistent, melancholic hopelessness that has me fashioning something as harmful as a pencil shaving into a weapon for my demise. The old me would wallow in it. She would lie in bed for hours and ruminate about her loneliness, her emptiness and her childhood traumas. She would obsess about her mounting debt and her life-limiting disabilities. The time she said hi to someone and they ignored her. Cue a full-blown depression relapse. Luckily, that was the old me. The…

  • Anxiety

    10 Self-Soothing Activities For Anxiety

    I am always on the lookout for the best self-soothing activities for anxiety. I’ve suffered from anxiety (as well as depression and BPD) for over a decade, so I know just how difficult intense emotions can be to handle. In my turbulent teens and early twenties, I tried everything I could to calm my out-of-control anxiety, from substance abuse to total isolation. Of course, my anxiety only got 10x worse. I would suffer from debilitating panic attacks that would leave me mentally-exhausted and completely vulnerable to the vicious anxiety cycle. Read: Social Anxiety and Alcohol – A Dangerous Cocktail I thought it would take some divine, complex concoction to manage…

  • BPD

    Healing From Childhood Trauma

    Healing from childhood trauma is a complex, personal process that often requires professional therapy. Please always seek professional advice. For my full disclaimer and some awesome mental health resources, click here. When you’ve experienced trauma as a child, it often feels like a wound that won’t heal despite how many times it scabs over. It is vulnerable to the slightest touch – a face, a smell, a song on the radio. All it takes is a nick for the wound to burst open, as fresh as it was all those years ago. Our natural instincts tell us that if we leave it alone it will heal autonomously. Life dictates that…

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