Self-Care

Self-care and wellness advice for mental health, including anxiety and depression. A self-care blog.

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    10 Signs That You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Happiness

    This post contains affiliate links. You can read my affiliate disclaimer here. The idea that we’re self-sabotaging our happiness is kind of soul-crushing, isn’t it? I mean, I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety and BPD for over a decade so I know just how hard it is to be happy. I know what it’s like to feel as though your brain chemicals are conspiring against you, intent on poisoning every thought and memory you have. I know what it’s like to have no control over your emotions, to slip into suicidal despair just because your mind says so. To say that I am ‘self-sabotaging’ is depression-inducing enough. Truthfully though, everyone is…

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    20 Things To Do Instead Of Drinking Alcohol

    I know the feeling. It’s 6pm, the time you would normally crack open a bottle of wine after a long day. It’s the thing you’ve been waiting for ever since you got up, the only thing that’s made the last 8 hours of work/life bearable. Finding things to do instead of drinking has always been difficult for me. For a good few years I was completely alcohol dependent, to the point where ‘going to the pub’ was my only real hobby. Any other activity I did – watching a film, going out for dinner, reading a book – was completed with a glass in my hand. I found it difficult…

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    40 Things To Do When You’re Bored At Night

    If you are a chronic insomniac like me, finding new things to do when you’re bored at night becomes an almighty chore. There’s only so much Friends you can binge before Ross’s voice becomes intolerable. You’re all out of midnight snacks and scrolling through social media is so mind-numbingly boring that even your best friend’s posts start to irritate you eventually (seriously, another picture of your dinner?) Maybe you’re stressed about a job interview or exam. Maybe you suffer from depression and your brain is convinced that replaying all of your past mistakes is far more productive than a good night’s sleep. Maybe anxiety has you worrying inconsequentially about all…

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    How To Become More Emotionally Self-Aware

    I used to have the emotional self-awareness of a faulty kettle. In my late teens and early twenties, I was a slave to BPD’s unstable, impulsive emotions. I succumbed to the anxiety and believed every word it said, my panic attacks capable of overwhelming me in an instant. I would also ruminate for hours on end, thinking myself into deep depressive episodes with zero restraint. Because I wasn’t emotionally self-aware, my emotions kind of just happened to me and I would react to them with intensity. When you lack self-awareness, you lack the ability to identify things like triggers and bad habits. You struggle with emotional control and find yourself…

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    Beautiful Mental Health Quotes From Literature

    If you’re a bookworm like me or love a meaningful mental health quote, you’ll love this list of my favourite mental health quotes from literature. I used to be your stereotypical Tumblr-obsessed 16-year-old. I treasured a huge collection of angsty, depression-inducing picture quotes, most of them about giving up on happiness or being unable to drown my demons. Yep, I was your stereotypical emo kid, right down to the floppy side-fringe. I liked those quotes because I could relate to them and in a way they made me feel less alone. However, I was also an impressionable, volatile teenager who would think herself into depression on a daily basis –…

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    Things To Remember If You’re Feeling Ugly

    There are a million reasons why you might be feeling ugly today. Maybe you recently got cheated on. Maybe you’re scrolling through Instagram and can’t help comparing yourself to that airbrushed model or friend who always looks good. Maybe a new spot on your chin is giving you a low self-esteem day. Or, maybe, you just feel ugly and always have. Girl, I know exactly how you feel. I was a teenage girl with albinism, nystagmus and a severe case of acne. Not to mention the Harry Potter glasses! Yeah, I got bullied mercilessly throughout high-school to the point where I couldn’t look in the mirror without wanting to scrape…

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    8 Life-Changing Hobbies For Depression

    We often don’t fully understand just how important hobbies are for our mental health until we have depression. I suffered from depression for over ten years, so I am well-acquainted with the ‘what’s the point’ mindset. I have endured long periods of hopelessness where I lacked the motivation to do anything other than sleep. I’ve also indulged in my fair share of unhealthy, self-destructive coping mechanisms, which completely destroyed my ability to find pleasure in life’s little things. These hobbies for depression are low-effort and cost-effective, with most of them being scientifically proven to reduce symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress and insomnia. This is because participating in healthy hobbies fights…

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    How To Practise Mindfulness; The Benefits of Mindfulness for Mental Health

    I’m going to be 100% honest – when I was first introduced to mindfulness as an angry, you-can’t-tell-me-what-to-do teenager, I thought it was a load of shit. I was your stereotypical angsty 16-year old, convinced that my depression was incurable and I was stuck this way forever ‘just because’. CAT couldn’t cure me. CBT couldn’t cure me. Medication seemed to have no effect whatsoever and how on earth was I going to get better by staring at my wall and breathing deeply for five minutes every day? Luckily, I discovered that mindfulness is so much more than that! There are numerous benefits of mindfulness for mental health, and it is…

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    How To Beat Insomnia; 8 practical tips for a better sleep

    So. The time is currently 3.17am. I went to bed at around 12am and woke up about 2am. For the last hour I’ve been lying in bed trying desperately to get back to sleep because I have a busy day tomorrow and I really don’t need this right now, brain! A few years ago, a night like this one would have seen me staring at the ceiling for hours. I would entertain myself by replaying bad memories, overthinking about situations that hadn’t yet happened and contemplating whether my measly existence was worth anything in The Grand Scheme of Things. Not being able to get to sleep, (or in my case…

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    10 Simple Habits of Happy People

    The idea that you can learn how to be happy simply by adopting healthy habits sounds ludicrous. Maybe even impossible. And yet, it’s important to realise that happiness is a habit that we all have to learn. Of course, some of us have to work a lot harder to find and maintain happiness. Adopting healthy habits alone isn’t going to magically cure your depression. However, the ultimate truth is that the ability to be happy lies entirely in our own hands. While that dream job, fancy car or new relationship may initially spike feelings of elation, we will always revert back to our base levels of happiness. That’s because true…

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