Self-Care

Self-care and wellness advice for mental health, including anxiety and depression. A self-care blog.

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    30 Things To Be Grateful For; A Gratitude List

    “I hate my life” “Nothing ever works out” “Everything sucks” Ah, the mantras of my youth. Until my early-twenties, I was an angsty, self-destructive pessimist who thought things like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘gratitude lists’ were just cheesy, cliched fads.  However, there came a point in my life where I decided that even pseudo-positivity had to be better than the crippling, soul-destroying, internal agony of BPD. So I said fuck it and, along with mindfulness, self-care routines and all the other things my edgy teenage self loathed, I wrote my first gratitude list. Much to 14-year-old me’s disgust, it did actually help. 1. True Friends They may be few and far between,…

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    Self-Care Sunday; WellBox Review

    After a particularly hard week of struggling to make ends meet as a work-from-homer, I was so grateful to the Wellbox team for gifting me with a mental health wellness box, packed with everything needed for a stress-free self-care Sunday! Wellbox are a company dedicated to spreading the love through personalised wellness boxes and gift hampers. Their boxes make cute, thoughtful gifts for friends, family or working-from-home employees who might be struggling with their mental health or are in need of some TLC. They also make amazing gifts for yourself, of course. Because you’re absolutely worth it! What I Got In My Box: Natural organic lip balm Bath salts A…

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    How To Resolve and Release Emotional Pain

    Us humans are incredibly emotional creatures. We are naturally sensitive, reactive and empathetic, capable of burning passion, overwhelming joy – and intense emotional pain. Learning how to release emotional pain in a healthy way is something I used to seriously struggle with. Depression, anxiety and BPD made me prone to self-destruction, meaning any distressing emotion I had was met with [insert unhealthy coping mechanism here]. Literally any, it was that bad. Mental illness or not, we all go through hardships in life. Whether it be a relationship breakdown or a close bereavement, there will come a time when knowing how to release our emotional pain in order to heal from…

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    Life In A Lockdown; A Mental Health Diary

    So, we are currently on our third national lockdown and have at least a month left of isolation. I’ve talked to quite a few people who’ve slowly managed to adjust to the new normal. Some people have even benefited from it, finally able to invest time in the things they find most important: side-hustles, hobbies, self-care and family life. It’s beautiful that even amid the sadness, fear and uncertainty, there are still some positives to be found ☀️ Of course, the pandemic has also caused a pretty severe mental health crisis, with people experiencing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever. Some of us are even breaching breakdown-territory, slipping back…

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    How To Practise Self-Care When You’re Broke AF

    When you think of self-care, what comes to mind? In this consumerist age of Instagram, self-care is associated with luxury and indulgence. Many of us think of all-inclusive holidays, spa treatments or bougie workout classes. We think of treating ourselves to fancy restaurant dinners or buying the extravagant new gadget our favourite influencer swears by this week. In other words, self-care = money. Which can make practising self-care when you’re broke a real pain in the ass. The financial strain of luxurious self-care can have an extremely detrimental effect on your mental health. However, practising self-care when you’re broke AF isn’t a total write off. In fact, it’s potentially even…

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    10 Signs That You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Happiness

    This post contains affiliate links. You can read my affiliate disclaimer here. The idea that we’re self-sabotaging our happiness is kind of soul-crushing, isn’t it? I mean, I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety and BPD for over a decade so I know just how hard it is to be happy. I know what it’s like to feel as though your brain chemicals are conspiring against you, intent on poisoning every thought and memory you have. I know what it’s like to have no control over your emotions, to slip into suicidal despair just because your mind says so. To say that I am ‘self-sabotaging’ is depression-inducing enough. Truthfully though, everyone is…

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    20 Things To Do Instead Of Drinking Alcohol

    I know the feeling. It’s 6pm, the time you would normally open a bottle of wine after a long day. It’s the thing you’ve been waiting for ever since you got up, the only thing that’s made the last 8 hours of work/life bearable. Finding things to do instead of drinking has always been difficult for me. For a good few years I was completely alcohol dependent, to the point where ‘going to the pub’ was my only real hobby. Any other activity I did – watching a film, going out for dinner, reading a book – was completed with a glass in my hand. I found it difficult to…

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    40 Things To Do When You’re Bored At Night

    If you are a chronic insomniac like me, finding new things to do when you’re bored at night becomes an almighty chore. There’s only so much Friends you can binge before Ross’s voice becomes intolerable. You’re all out of midnight snacks and scrolling through social media is so mind-numbingly boring that even your best friend’s posts start to irritate you eventually (seriously, another picture of your dinner?) Maybe you’re stressed about a job interview or exam. Maybe you suffer from depression and your brain is convinced that replaying all of your past mistakes is far more productive than a good night’s sleep. Maybe anxiety has you worrying inconsequentially about all…

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    How To Become More Emotionally Self-Aware

    I used to have the emotional self-awareness of a faulty kettle. In my late teens and early twenties, I was a slave to BPD’s unstable, impulsive emotions. I succumbed to the anxiety and believed every word it said, my panic attacks capable of overwhelming me in an instant. I would also ruminate for hours on end, thinking myself into deep depressive episodes with zero restraint. Because I wasn’t emotionally self-aware, my emotions kind of just happened to me and I would react to them with intensity. When you lack self-awareness, you lack the ability to identify things like triggers and bad habits. You struggle with emotional control and find yourself…

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    Beautiful Mental Health Quotes From Literature

    If you’re a bookworm like me or love a meaningful mental health quote, you’ll love this list of my favourite mental health quotes from literature. I used to be your stereotypical Tumblr-obsessed 16-year-old. I treasured a huge collection of angsty, depression-inducing picture quotes, most of them about giving up on happiness or being unable to drown my demons. Yep, I was your stereotypical emo kid, right down to the floppy side-fringe. I liked those quotes because I could relate to them and in a way they made me feel less alone. However, I was also an impressionable, volatile teenager who would think herself into depression on a daily basis –…

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