BPD

A living with borderline personality disorder blog, sharing the intense highs and crushing lows of BPD

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    20 Journal Prompts for BPD

    Have you ever thought about using journaling to manage BPD? Don’t worry, even I was sceptical at first. I’ve filled countless diaries over the years and although it started off innocently enough, my teenage musings grew increasingly morbid. It got to the point where I gave up on diaries completely, convinced that writing down my depressing thoughts only made things worse. However, using journal prompts for BPD involves so much more than just scribbling down diary entries. While it can be used as a mind-dump for chaotic or overwhelming thoughts, journaling encourages you to write with purposeful intention as well as unfiltered emotion. Journaling is a well-known form of expressive…

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    Self-Help For BPD

    Self-help for BPD should be completed alongside therapy, with the help of a licensed medical professional. To read my full disclaimer, please click here. Living with borderline personality disorder is mentally and emotionally exhausting. We are constantly internalising intense emotions and trying not to let them destroy us. Day in and day out we grapple against self-destructive urges and paranoid fears of abandonment, trying to ignore the voices telling us over and over again that we are broken. Self-care and self-help is essential for BPD, even more so during the current pandemic. Mental health services are strained and professional help is harder to come by than ever, meaning that a…

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    20 Positive Affirmations for BPD

    We don’t often think of using positive affirmations for BPD. I actually started using them solely to manage my anxiety. However, since I’ve been incorporating positive affirmations into my self-care routine, I’ve seen a lot of improvement in how I manage some of my BPD symptoms. Positive affirmations are simple, positive statements that you repeat daily to yourself. They encourage positive thinking patterns and healthy coping mechanisms by subconsciously adjusting and realigning your negative mindset. In fact, positive affirmations work in the same way as negative affirmations: the more you consciously repeat them, the easier it will be for your subconscious brain to start believing them. Positive affirmations for BPD…

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    Everything You Need To Know About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder

    Spoiler: it sucks. Living with borderline personality disorder can be incredibly distressing and the suicide rates are dangerously high. Here is everything you need to know about BPD. Disclaimer: Any advice I give is drawn from my own experiences living with borderline personality disorder and should not be substituted for medical advice. You can check out some great mental health resources here! What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition that is characterised by instability. Our relationships are turbulent, our emotions are volatile and intense, and our self-identity is constantly wavering. It is a condition that causes intense inner turmoil, often resulting in self-destructive behaviours, self-harm and…

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    The Truth About BPD and Cheating

    Plenty of mentally-healthy people cheat — an estimated 40%, in fact — but the general consensus around BPD and cheating is that it is us, the unstable, toxic borderlines, who are the persistent offenders. After all, we are the ones who blow hot and cold, idealising you one minute and hating you the next. We are the ones who push you away at the slightest inconvenience, renowned for being impulsive, flighty and — let’s face it — promiscuous. Just do a quick Google search and you will see ‘engaging in risky sex or promiscuity’ on every list of symptoms. If that isn’t damming enough, you can stray onto sites like Reddit and read first-hand accounts of people who’ve…

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    Healing From Childhood Trauma

    Healing from childhood trauma is a complex, personal process that often requires professional therapy. Please always seek professional advice. For my full disclaimer and some awesome mental health resources, click here. When you’ve experienced trauma as a child, it often feels like a wound that won’t heal despite how many times it scabs over. It is vulnerable to the slightest touch – a face, a smell, a song on the radio. All it takes is a nick for the wound to burst open, as fresh as it was all those years ago. Our natural instincts tell us that if we leave it alone it will heal autonomously. Life dictates that…

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    BPD and Long-Distance Relationships – Can They Work?

    BPD and long-distance relationships are not the most, erm, compatible combination. I happened to find this out the hard way, when a relatively stable, years-long relationship of mine went down in flames after merely ONE month of long-distance. “But, all of your old relationships went down in flames,” I hear you accuse. Touché. But this LDR actually became the catalyst for my BPD diagnosis. Across blogs and forums, people with BPD communicate their struggle with long-distance relationships. Stina Marie describes it as ‘agony’. Laura Snelling says it is “extremely difficult and exhausting” – not only for herself, but for the person she’s with. Why is BPD so destructive to long-distance…

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    My Guide To Managing Multiple Mental Illnesses

    I’ve been managing multiple mental health illnesses ever since I was a teenager. My borderline personality disorder has been there ever since I can remember, lurking in the shadows and silently poisoning every aspect of my life. My depression was the first to be diagnosed though, obtrusive waves of sadness that turned into debilitating, suicidal despair. The anxiety came later, disguised as introversion until I tried to cure it with recreational drugs. Every single day, depression, anxiety and BPD try their best to inconvenience me into a mental breakdown. Managing multiple mental illnesses is hard. Like, really hard. For the first 10+ years of my mental health journey, I was…

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    Embracing The Positive Things About BPD

    Yeah, OK. So I had to dig a little deep to create this post. But I got there in the end. BPD is one of the most misunderstood mental health disorders today, and there are a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding it. ‘Crazy,’ ‘abusive’ and ‘manipulative’ are amongst some of the most common and hurtful stereotypes identified by Sonny Jane over on The Mighty. BPD is even portrayed negatively in the media (I mean, have you watched Fatal Attraction?) Even worse, it isn’t only the general public who stigmatise and stereotype people with BPD. New York psychologist Ron Aviram remarked on the negative and harmful stereotypes held by mental health…

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    Going Through A Break-Up When You Have Borderline Personality Disorder

    Breakups suck. Going through a breakup when you have borderline personality disorder doubly sucks. And don’t even get me started on what it feels like to get dumped. Oh, sorry, did I say dumped? I meant “abandoned forever because I’m a worthless piece of shit and nobody will ever love me, etc, etc, etc….” One of the most self-destructive symptoms of BPD is an intense and overwhelming fear of abandonment. This fear often triggers the display of other symptoms – erratic moods, paranoia, splitting and impulsive behaviour, all of which are great at creating unstable, toxic relationships and making our fear of abandonment a self-fulfilling prophecy. Read: Everything You Need…

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