A living with borderline personality disorder blog, sharing the intense highs and crushing lows of BPD

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    20 Positive Affirmations for BPD

    We don’t often think of using positive affirmations for BPD. I actually started using them solely to manage my anxiety. However, since I’ve been incorporating positive affirmations into my self-care routine, I’ve seen a lot of improvement in how I manage some of my BPD symptoms. Positive affirmations are simple, positive statements that you repeat daily to yourself. They encourage positive thinking patterns and healthy coping mechanisms by subconsciously adjusting and realigning your negative mindset. In fact, positive affirmations work in the same way as negative affirmations: the more you consciously repeat them, the easier it will be for your subconscious brain to start believing them. Positive affirmations for BPD…

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    Everything You Need To Know About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder

    Living with borderline personality disorder can be incredibly distressing and the suicide rates are dangerously high. Here is everything you need to know about BPD. What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition that is characterised by instability. Our relationships are turbulent, our emotions are volatile and intense, and our self-identity is constantly wavering. It is a condition that causes intense inner turmoil, often resulting in self-destructive behaviours, self-harm and suicide attempts. Read: The Worst Things About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder BPD Statistics Around 1 in 100 people have BPD, making it the most common personality disorder Up to 76% of people with BPD report…

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    The Truth About BPD and Cheating

    Plenty of mentally-healthy people cheat — an estimated 40%, in fact — but the general consensus around BPD and cheating is that it is us, the unstable, toxic borderlines, who are the persistent offenders. After all, we are the ones who blow hot and cold, idealising you one minute and hating you the next. We are the ones who push you away at the slightest inconvenience, renowned for being impulsive, flighty and — let’s face it — promiscuous. Just do a quick Google search and you will see ‘engaging in risky sex or promiscuity’ on every list of symptoms. If that isn’t damming enough, you can stray onto sites like Reddit and read first-hand accounts of people who’ve…

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    Healing From Childhood Trauma

    Healing from childhood trauma is a complex, personal process that often requires professional therapy. Please always seek professional advice. For my full disclaimer and some awesome mental health resources, click here. When you’ve experienced trauma as a child, it often feels like a wound that won’t heal despite how many times it scabs over. It is vulnerable to the slightest touch – a face, a smell, a song on the radio. All it takes is a nick for the wound to burst open, as fresh as it was all those years ago. Our natural instincts tell us that if we leave it alone it will heal autonomously. Life dictates that…

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    BPD and Long-Distance Relationships – Can They Work?

    BPD and long-distance relationships can be a very damaging mix. Why do I say this? Well, before my diagnosis, circumstances found me and my boyfriend of 2 years in a long-distance relationship (we’re talking opposite sides of the world long distance). I’d be lying if I said the relationship wasn’t already on the rocks, but it lasted less than two months before ending in disaster. “But all of your relationships have ended in disaster,” I hear you accuse. Touché. And yet, those two months of being in a long-distance relationship exasperated my BPD to the point where I was very, very ill. The breakdown of this relationship was actually the…

  • Anxiety,  BPD,  Depression

    My Guide To Managing Multiple Mental Illnesses

    I’ve been managing multiple mental health illnesses ever since I was a teenager. My borderline personality disorder has been there ever since I can remember, lurking in the shadows and silently poisoning every aspect of my life. My depression was the first to be diagnosed though, obtrusive waves of sadness that turned into debilitating, suicidal despair. The anxiety came later, disguised as introversion until I tried to cure it with recreational drugs. Every single day, depression, anxiety and BPD try their best to inconvenience me into a mental breakdown. Managing multiple mental illnesses is hard. Like, really hard. For the first 10+ years of my mental health journey, I was…

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    Embracing The Positive Things About BPD

    Yeah, OK. So I had to dig a little deep to create this post. But I got there in the end. BPD is one of the most misunderstood mental health disorders today, and there are a lot of negative stereotypes surrounding it. ‘Crazy,’ ‘abusive’ and ‘manipulative’ are amongst some of the most common and hurtful stereotypes identified by Sonny Jane over on The Mighty. BPD is even portrayed negatively in the media (I mean, have you watched Fatal Attraction?) Even worse, it isn’t only the general public who stigmatise and stereotype people with BPD. New York psychologist Ron Aviram remarked on the negative and harmful stereotypes held by mental health…

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    Going Through A Break-Up When You Have Borderline Personality Disorder

    Breakups suck. Breakups when you have borderline personality disorder doubly suck. I was lucky enough to find this out a few months ago when one of my very worst BPD fears came true and I got dumped. No, not dumped. Abandoned. At least that’s what the BPD told me. In the past, I never talked about my borderline personality disorder with friends or family because 1. they didn’t care, 2. they didn’t get it and 3. I didn’t care or get it either. In fact, I pretty much ignored it for a long time because it just didn’t make sense to me. That was until I couldn’t ignore it anymore.…

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