We don’t often think of using positive affirmations for BPD. I actually started using them solely to manage my anxiety. However, since I’ve been incorporating positive affirmations into my self-care routine, I’ve seen a lot of improvement in how I manage some of my BPD symptoms.
Positive affirmations are simple, positive statements that you repeat daily to yourself. They encourage positive thinking patterns and healthy coping mechanisms by subconsciously adjusting and realigning your negative mindset.
In fact, positive affirmations work in the same way as negative affirmations: the more you consciously repeat them, the easier it will be for your subconscious brain to start believing them.
Positive affirmations for BPD focus on acceptance, strength and self-love. They also have a strong emotional focus, directly combating the intense mood swings and overwhelming emotions that characterise BPD.
They also help you to stop negative thinking and ruminating, which is something us borderlines do a lot due to fear and paranoia.
Personally, using positive affirmations for BPD helps to calm my mind when I’m about to lose my head over something trivial (like an unanswered text or offhand comment). They help me to talk myself down from irrational, intense and paranoid BPD thought loops, clearing my mind enough for me to rationalise and self-soothe.
With disciplined, regular practise, positive affirmations will help you to adopt healthy thinking habits, counteracting any unhealthy, mentally-destructive habits that you might have.
Here are some of my favourite positive affirmations for BPD.
Positive Affirmations for BPD
“I am deserving of happiness”
“I am in control of my own emotions”
“I forgive myself for my past mistakes”
“I refuse to let my fears control my life”
“I am at home in my body”
“I am stable and secure in myself”
“I am stronger and more rational than my fears”
“I am strong and resilient”
“I am full of love and gratitude”
“I accept myself for who I am”
“I am my own person, with my own beautiful, unique identity”
“I am not defined by my mental health illness”
“I am able to control how I react to stressful situations”
“My happiness comes from within”
“I do not need to respond to this emotion; it will pass”
“I am in full control of my body and refuse to succumb to anger”
“I am independent”
“I am healing more and more everyday”
“I forgive everyone who has ever hurt me and release them with love”
“My BPD is not a weakness – it is a strength”
I especially love the last affirmation. My self-love journey has been long and turbulent, but I’ve finally managed to see that there are plenty of positive, empowering things about BPD. For the ultimate positive affirmations guide, visit the Develop Good Habits website where you can discover 1,132 daily mantras.
The Best Way To Practise Positive Affirmations
Use present tense
It’s instinctive to phrase positive affirmations in the future tense because, well, I don’t feel stable and secure right now, brain! In the case of BPD, it can sometimes feel especially difficult to tell yourself something that you don’t believe to be true – especially when you’re in the middle of an emotional tornado.
When we phrase affirmations in the future tense, we are constantly reminding our brains that we aren’t where we want to be. By using present-tense, we proudly declare that “I am stable and secure” is the reality that we confirm. It is a much more powerful way to alter your mindset.
Stick with the positive
Try to avoid using ‘can’t’ or ‘not’ as these evoke negative connotations.
Make them short and sweet
You want to be able to recite your positive affirmations at times when your emotions are intense or your thoughts are racing. Making them short and simple will ensure that they are easier to remember in a crisis.
Say them out loud in the mirror
Confronting your insecurities in such a direct way really speeds up your journey to overcoming them. Find five minutes every day – maybe when you’re doing your make-up or styling your hair – to look into the mirror and practise direct, out-loud positive affirmations for BPD.
I can’t lie, I really struggled with this bit at first. In fact, there was one occasion where I burst into tears, unable to look at my reflection and say “I forgive myself for my mistakes” because I just didn’t believe it to be true. However, rather than force me to quit, this only gave me even more motivation to practise self-love and forgiveness.
If you have any other positive affirmations for BPD then please leave them in the comments below – I love finding more to add to my list!