I don’t know your life story, nor do I know your pain. What I do know though, is that your life is worth saving. There are so many reasons why you should stay alive even if you feel as though suicide is the only option.
I was five years old when I lost one of my parents to suicide. Growing up I struggled with guilt, rejection, anger and heartbreak, driving myself mad with unanswered questions.
Why did they do it? No, how could they do it, when I needed them most?
Was I not enough?
My parent’s suicide caused me a great deal of inner turmoil and spiralled me into depression from a young age. Surprisingly to some, my teenage years were littered with suicidal ideation, self-harm and suicide attempts.
When you’re stuck in the deep throes of depression, its darkness can feel all-consuming and never-ending. Suicide is less about wanting to die and more about wanting an end to your emotional pain, a pain that blinds you to all the beauty and joy in the world.
If you feel like giving up today, please read these reasons why you should stay alive first. They have prevented a suicide attempt many times in my case – and I am so relieved and grateful that I’m alive to share them with you today.
If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please get in touch with your doctor or a mental health professional. Alternatively, you can call Samaritans or check out my resources page. Stay safe, you are not alone ❤️
10 Reasons Why You Should Stay Alive
1. You are not alone, no matter how alone you feel
Depression is isolating, convincing us that nobody understands and nobody cares. Depression is also a liar. 1 in 5 people have suicidal thoughts, making it likely that they’re lurking behind a friend’s cheery smile.
2. Whatever you’re feeling now will pass
I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but the time will come when you look back on this moment and feel nothing but happiness over your choice to carry on living.
3. Depression is an illness. Your sadness is a symptom
In no way does this invalidate your sadness. It’s a reminder that depression is a serious mental illness with a long list of debilitating symptoms. Remember that you are not your depression, and your depressed thoughts do not reflect reality or truth.
4. So many hearts will be broken without you
Research shows that when someone dies by suicide, approximately six people are intimately traumatised by their death. These people are also prone to developing PTSD and depression as a direct result. So stop telling yourself that nobody will care because that’s just not true.
5. There’s a reason that you’ve held on for so long. Focus on it. It’s your purpose
6. There are so many beautiful things you have yet to experience
Remember the time you laughed until your stomach hurt? Remember the time you looked at the sunset and felt nothing but peace? Remember the joy of hearing your favourite song or your child’s laughter for the very first time? There are so many beautiful, simple, happy moments in life that you’ll be missing out on if you chose to give up tonight.
7. Depression IS treatable and antidepressants DO work
Research shows that antidepressants are particularly effective at treating moderate-to-severe depression – and 50-65% of people will see an improvement! Give medication a try if you haven’t already, and don’t be afraid to switch if one particular antidepressant doesn’t work for you – just always consult with your doctor first.
8. Science and technology advances every day – who knows what we’ll discover next!
Better treatments for depression? Technology that improves the quality of your life? The possibilities are endless and you could be here to see it happen.
9. You’ve survived so much and can survive this too
“Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside of you that is greater than any obstacle.”Christian D. Larson
You are so, so much stronger than you feel.
10. You alone have the power to say “This is not how my story ends”
In light of suicide awareness week.