• Self-Care

    Life In A Lockdown; A Mental Health Diary

    So, we are currently on our third national lockdown and have at least a month left of isolation. I’ve talked to quite a few people who’ve slowly managed to adjust to the new normal. Some people have even benefited from it, finally able to invest time in the things they find most important: side-hustles, hobbies, self-care and family life. It’s beautiful that even amid the sadness, fear and uncertainty, there are still some positives to be found ☀️ Of course, the pandemic has also caused a pretty severe mental health crisis, with people experiencing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever. Some of us are even breaching breakdown-territory, slipping back…

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    Self-Help For BPD

    Self-help for BPD should be completed alongside therapy. To read my full disclaimer, please click here. Living with borderline personality disorder is mentally and emotionally exhausting. We are constantly internalising intense emotions and trying not to let them destroy us. Day in and day out we grapple against self-destructive urges and paranoid fears of abandonment, trying to ignore the voices telling us over and over again that we are broken, unlovable and evil. Self-care and self-help is essential for BPD, even more so during the current pandemic. Mental health services are strained and professional help is harder to come by than ever, meaning that a lot of us are riding…

  • Depression

    6 Lies Depression Tells Us

    The lies depression tells us are cruel and all-consuming. They have the power to strip us of everything we need to survive: our self-worth, ambition, hope, happiness – even our very will to live. For most of my life I’ve been consumed by depression’s intrusive thoughts. For so long I believed every malicious self-criticism, every declaration of eternal hopelessness and assurance that I would be better off dead. I didn’t know that depression was a silk-tongued manipulator screwing with 264 million people in the exact same way that it was screwing with me. I didn’t understand that depression was the master of cognitive distortions and bare-faced lies. But once I…

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    20 Mental Health Goals For Depression

    So, 2020 has been a bit of a nightmare. Like so many of you, my mental health has taken a nosedive this year and I’m still trying to put the pieces back together. My depression has taken the worst hit as I found myself slipping back into my old life-sucks-peace-out mindset. Because of this, I thought it would be a good idea to set some mental health goals for depression in a bid to start 2021 on the right foot! Goal-setting is a mentally-healthy habit to have, especially if you suffer from mood disorders. As someone who battles with things like suicidal ideation and chronic emptiness, having mental health goals…

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    How To Practise Self-Care When You’re Broke AF

    When you think of self-care, what comes to mind? In this consumerist age of Instagram, self-care is associated with luxury and indulgence. Many of us think of all-inclusive holidays, spa treatments or bougie workout classes. We think of treating ourselves to fancy restaurant dinners or buying the extravagant new gadget our favourite influencer swears by this week. In other words, self-care = money. Which can make practising self-care when you’re broke a real pain in the ass. The financial strain of luxurious self-care can have an extremely detrimental effect on your mental health. However, practising self-care when you’re broke AF isn’t a total write off. In fact, it’s potentially even…

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    “But I Don’t Want To Take Meds!” – My Experience With Antidepressants

    I think it’s fair to say that my experience with antidepressants over the last 13 years has been … messy. Not only did I struggle to find an antidepressant that worked for me, but for many years I was adamant that I was ‘absolutely fine’ and didn’t want or need to take medication. Yep, this is yet another one of my ‘irresponsible, stubborn, self-destructive teenage angst’ stories. Luckily, this one has a happy ending. Buckle up! Choosing the right medication is a very personal choice that requires a lot of medical insight. Always consult a medical professional before stopping or starting antidepressants. For my full disclaimer plus some awesome mental…

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    10 Signs That You’re Self-Sabotaging Your Happiness

    This post contains affiliate links. You can read my affiliate disclaimer here. The idea that we’re self-sabotaging our happiness is kind of soul-crushing, isn’t it? I mean, I’ve suffered from depression, anxiety and BPD for over a decade so I know just how hard it is to be happy. I know what it’s like to feel as though your brain chemicals are conspiring against you, intent on poisoning every thought and memory you have. I know what it’s like to have no control over your emotions, to slip into suicidal despair just because your mind says so. To say that I am ‘self-sabotaging’ is depression-inducing enough. Truthfully though, everyone is…

  • BPD

    20 Positive Affirmations for BPD

    We don’t often think of using positive affirmations for BPD. I actually started using them solely to manage my anxiety. However, since I’ve been incorporating positive affirmations into my self-care routine, I’ve seen a lot of improvement in how I manage some of my BPD symptoms. Positive affirmations are simple, positive statements that you repeat daily to yourself. They encourage positive thinking patterns and healthy coping mechanisms by subconsciously adjusting and realigning your negative mindset. In fact, positive affirmations work in the same way as negative affirmations: the more you consciously repeat them, the easier it will be for your subconscious brain to start believing them. Positive affirmations for BPD…

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    20 Things To Do Instead Of Drinking Alcohol

    I know the feeling. It’s 6pm, the time you would normally open a bottle of wine after a long day. It’s the thing you’ve been waiting for ever since you got up, the only thing that’s made the last 8 hours of work/life bearable. Finding things to do instead of drinking has always been difficult for me. For a good few years I was completely alcohol dependent, to the point where ‘going to the pub’ was my only real hobby. Any other activity I did – watching a film, going out for dinner, reading a book – was completed with a glass in my hand. I found it difficult to…

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    Everything You Need To Know About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder

    Living with borderline personality disorder can be incredibly distressing and the suicide rates are dangerously high. Here is everything you need to know about BPD. What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a condition that is characterised by instability. Our relationships are turbulent, our emotions are volatile and intense, and our self-identity is constantly wavering. It is a condition that causes intense inner turmoil, often resulting in self-destructive behaviours, self-harm and suicide attempts. Read: The Worst Things About Living With Borderline Personality Disorder BPD Statistics Around 1 in 100 people have BPD, making it the most common personality disorder Up to 76% of people with BPD report…

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