• Self-Care

    30 Things To Be Grateful For; A Gratitude List

    “I hate my life” “Nothing ever works out” “Everything sucks” Ah, the mantras of my youth. Until my early-twenties, I was an angsty, self-destructive pessimist who thought things like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘gratitude lists’ were just cheesy, cliched fads.  However, there came a point in my life where I decided that even pseudo-positivity had to be better than the crippling, soul-destroying, internal agony of BPD. So I said fuck it and, along with mindfulness, self-care routines and all the other things my edgy teenage self loathed, I wrote my first gratitude list. Much to 14-year-old me’s disgust, it did actually help. 1. True Friends They may be few and far between,…

  • Self-Care

    Self-Care Sunday; WellBox Review

    After a particularly hard week of struggling to make ends meet as a work-from-homer, I was so grateful to the Wellbox team for gifting me with a mental health wellness box, packed with everything needed for a stress-free self-care Sunday! Wellbox are a company dedicated to spreading the love through personalised wellness boxes and gift hampers. Their boxes make cute, thoughtful gifts for friends, family or working-from-home employees who might be struggling with their mental health or are in need of some TLC. They also make amazing gifts for yourself, of course. Because you’re absolutely worth it! What I Got In My Box: Natural organic lip balm Bath salts A…

  • BPD

    20 Journal Prompts for BPD

    Have you ever thought about using journaling to manage BPD? Don’t worry, even I was sceptical at first. I’ve filled countless diaries over the years and although it started off innocently enough, my teenage musings grew increasingly morbid. It got to the point where I gave up on diaries completely, convinced that writing down my depressing thoughts only made things worse. However, using journal prompts for BPD involves so much more than just scribbling down diary entries. While it can be used as a mind-dump for chaotic or overwhelming thoughts, journaling encourages you to write with purposeful intention as well as unfiltered emotion. Journaling is a well-known form of expressive…

  • Self-Care

    How To Resolve and Release Emotional Pain

    Us humans are incredibly emotional creatures. We are naturally sensitive, reactive and empathetic, capable of burning passion, overwhelming joy – and intense emotional pain. Learning how to release emotional pain in a healthy way is something I used to seriously struggle with. Depression, anxiety and BPD made me prone to self-destruction, meaning any distressing emotion I had was met with [insert unhealthy coping mechanism here]. Literally any, it was that bad. Mental illness or not, we all go through hardships in life. Whether it be a relationship breakdown or a close bereavement, there will come a time when knowing how to release our emotional pain in order to heal from…

  • Depression

    “Insomnia Is Driving Me Crazy” – Insomnia and Suicidal Thoughts

    TW; Suicide. So, the time is 6am and I’ve barely slept a wink for 3 nights straight. On my first two sleepless nights I got up and read, watched TV and baked some cookies. Tonight I stayed in bed, crying from exhaustion, re-living my childhood traumas and stewing in self-loathing. Insomnia is driving me crazy tonight but it’s nowhere near as bad as it used to be. It went from being a minor inconvenience at 12 years old to the main aggravator of my raging depression at 13, filling night after night with panic attacks, self-harm, suicidal thoughts and perverted creeps. Of course, nobody took it seriously back then because…

  • Anxiety

    Stop Comparing Yourself To Others On Social Media

    Social media can be a melting pot of insecurity. A seriously addictive, soul-destroying melting pot. We know that we shouldn’t compare ourselves to others on social media, but it’s pretty damn hard when every other photo we scroll past seems to be of a perfect-bodied, flawless-skinned influencer promoting a product we could never afford. Our friends seem to be constantly announcing their pregnancies, promotions, engagements and weight-loss wins. They have tons of supportive friends and exciting life experiences. We can’t help but compare our lives to theirs and think “why do I not have what they have? Their life is so much better than mine.” “The reason we struggle with…

  • Depression

    7 Mental Health Reminders For Difficult Times

    When you’re going through challenging times in your life, it can be difficult to see the light through the darkness. Sometimes we need some simple, positive mental health reminders just to help us calm the storm – even if it’s only by a little bit. These mental health reminders are nothing revolutionary. They are just simple truths about the world that we often forget about in hard times, especially if our judgement is clouded by anxiety’s paranoia or depression’s malicious lies. Even if these mental health reminders don’t fix everything, I hope they can offer you a tiny piece of comfort on your dark days. I know they do for…

  • Self-Care

    Life In A Lockdown; A Mental Health Diary

    So, we are currently on our third national lockdown and have at least a month left of isolation. I’ve talked to quite a few people who’ve slowly managed to adjust to the new normal. Some people have even benefited from it, finally able to invest time in the things they find most important: side-hustles, hobbies, self-care and family life. It’s beautiful that even amid the sadness, fear and uncertainty, there are still some positives to be found ☀️ Of course, the pandemic has also caused a pretty severe mental health crisis, with people experiencing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever. Some of us are even breaching breakdown-territory, slipping back…

  • BPD

    Self-Help For BPD

    Self-help for BPD should be completed alongside therapy, with the help of a licensed medical professional. To read my full disclaimer, please click here. Living with borderline personality disorder is mentally and emotionally exhausting. We are constantly internalising intense emotions and trying not to let them destroy us. Day in and day out we grapple against self-destructive urges and paranoid fears of abandonment, trying to ignore the voices telling us over and over again that we are broken. Self-care and self-help is essential for BPD, even more so during the current pandemic. Mental health services are strained and professional help is harder to come by than ever, meaning that a…

  • Depression

    6 Lies Depression Tells Us

    The lies depression tells us are cruel and all-consuming. They have the power to strip us of everything we need to survive: our self-worth, ambition, hope, happiness – even our very will to live. For most of my life I’ve been consumed by depression’s intrusive thoughts. For so long I believed every malicious self-criticism, every declaration of eternal hopelessness and assurance that I would be better off dead. I didn’t know that depression was a silk-tongued manipulator screwing with 264 million people in the exact same way that it was screwing with me. I didn’t understand that depression was the master of cognitive distortions and bare-faced lies. But once I…

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